A week ago, I was engrossed in a cup of tea with my office mates
in the cafeteria, when a headline captured my attention. “16 year old girl gangraped in
Haryana”. The reporters were questioning the victim, Reshma(Name
changed). She had covered her face with her dupatta and was holding her
mother’s hands. As the interview went on she kept answering slowly with her
head bent down and she did not once look up. “I have to move on,
maybe leave the village,” Reshma said. “I have to study; I have to become
an Indian Police Service official.” She continued. It took me a
while to digest what I had just seen. The plight in her eyes and the
helplessness revealed it all and deep inside I wished that this girl should
become a public servant one day.
I went back home and was busy surfing the
net when a news article took me by surprise. It was relevant to what had
disturbed me that morning. Iwas
shocked to see another rape incident in a span of two days and coincidentally
in the same state of Haryana. It started to become a little tormenting.
This story continued
for over a week,
Fifteen-year-old mentally challenged Dalit girl raped in Rohtak.
Thirty-year-old married backward caste woman gang raped inside her house by
three men with guns.
Class XI teenage girl gang raped by four men in Gohana town.
Sixteen-year-old Dalit girl gang raped in Jind district
Class VI girl raped by the fruit vendor outside her school.
Each day a new story
came into light and each day a victim lost her self-pride. I remember that
earlier the victims would commit suicide when such incidents happened to them.
However, these days it is the parents who decide to end their life. Eventually
and sadly, the rapists spoils an entire family.
There is an epidemic
of rape that has sprung out, an epidemic that is incurable especially in a
country like India which is bitten by the sting of corruption, backward rural
life, ignorant officials and money frenzy politicians. This epidemic, god forbid would take ages to be cured and by then who
knows Haryana would have only once gender present, “Males”.
As I was following the
entire news update everyday on this issue, I realized that this heinous crime
has been torturing Haryana since long, but only recently has it come into
light. Any guesses on what could be the reason, “A new topic to show concern
upon and win the elections” But, wait a minute; no one in Haryana has actually
spoken on punishments to the rapists or any positive improvements in the
lifestyle of woman. It is shameful that the officials and politicians are
caught making statements, “90% of the rape cases are a result of consensual
sex”. Ridiculous isn’t it? I kept wondering that how can a rape case be
consensual?
If it was, then it wouldn’t be called “rape”, it would be merely
“pleasure”.
There has been a
series of constant outbursts emanating from various political leaders. In one
case, it was said that this entire story is a conspiracy against the Haryana
government.
And to make matters
worse, the khaps sent out a diktat which said that the marriageable age for
women should be reduced to 16. It was a few years back when there was a debate
that the marriageable age for women should be increased to 21. Is India
actually going backward?
To stop the number of
rape cases a solution is being pondered upon which would push a girl into the
valley of marital rape. Well, in some ways, the life of a woman in Haryana is
equivalent to living in the fire of Hell. Traps are set to kill her even before
she comes into this world and by luck if she gets a chance to open her eyes and
live, I guess she would think that the trap set earlier was better. Haryana boasts of the lowest sex ratio in India - 833 women to every
1000 men. Reason being the atrocities they are burdened with.
I was going through
each story of the victims when one story caught my eye. It was where a sixth
class girl was raped by the fruit vendor out of her school continuously for
three months. It was more ironic to read that she and her sister were expelled
from the school for a crime in which they were the victims.
In many cases, the
police are not ready to lodge a complaint against the criminals. This in fact
arouses them to freely roam around and happily spoil the lives of young women.
We are talking about
increasing the economy of India, going nuclear, reaching the space, becoming a
developed nation but I guess this has become restrictive to the elite
population or rather the urban crowd. The upliftment of a country lies in its
overall development which includes the rural and the urban crowd. Where does change come in? And who would bring it
about? Do we still keep pointing our fingers at one another and start being
penetrators of the crime or will we react? If Haryana and similar
states would still be curbed by the local panchayats and village heads, it is
evident that the crime rate is going to increase.
Paying compensation to
the victim’s family is what the government has been doing since years. And
keeping quiet is what the victims are doing for quite a long time. It is a pity
that in our country every crime has the tendency to increase than to decrease.
Instead of bringing about a law to
punish the criminals and penetrators of the crime, I think it would be better
to educate the victims and give them a strong support in fighting with the
society which shuns them.
*Consensual rape* a bizarre oxymoron! Why do these people comment just for the heck of it! You are right India is 'growing backwards'
ReplyDeleteNice article you have eloquently described what every citizen has to say to these so called Leaders!
I totally agree with u Ritu on the oxymoron thing.... People are putting the blame on the victims rather than the criminals....
DeleteIt's is going to take a heel lot of time for India to change...
Thanks for going through the post...
I totally agree with u Ritu on the oxymoron thing.... People are putting the blame on the victims rather than the criminals....
DeleteIt's is going to take a heel lot of time for India to change...
Thanks for going through the post...
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DeleteWhat a shame! I feel sad for the victims ,but what is more sad is that they are made to feel that way. people taunting ,looking down and commenting on there acts make it worse for their folks to survive.. Girl of young age does not know what is Rape, what just happened to them.. Itz the media who highlight all these victims instead of the person who did the crime. If only people realize that media for publicity is bringing up the victim which is someone's daughter,sister and making them feel shameful in front of the world and think of their daughter as there daughter,will they let someone point finger at her innocence?
ReplyDeletePeople should react in order to make India a better place to survive for girls..
Shaz
Aptly said shaz ..... People hold the key to make India a better place to live in....
DeleteIt's really sad that the society behaves ignorant till it actually pinches them...
Thanks for going through the post...
Not to forget the latest Khaps accusation about *chowmein*
ReplyDeleteThere's just no stopping the Khaps: "Eating chowmein leads to hormonal imbalance which leads to rapes." (is that why China is so populated? :-D)
LOL i didnt hear of this Ritu..
DeleteGlad that you put this up. Ridiculous that khaps come up with some statements.
And yeah liked the humour you put up at the end.
We need a corollary of Poe's Law for Politicians:
ReplyDelete"Without a winking smiley or other blatant display of humor, it is impossible to create a parody of the shit that Politicians say, that someone won't mistake for the real thing."
- as so said by a friend on the Chowmein statement!
I sometimes wonder that people can blabber to such an extent to obtain power....
DeleteWe are again going back to the Moghul era where women were only an object of desire and a machine to produce babies. A society which doesn't respect its women can only plunge into darkness and despair.
ReplyDeleteAgree with you Sabyasachi....
DeleteI agree with Ritu. "Consensual rape" is a contradiction in terms. Since when does a woman consent to being physically abused?!?! Looks like we're going backwards... yet again.
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